Working as an Ice Sculptor in Therapy

Some clients are complicated and challenging, for one reason or another.  Some have a long history of difficulties in life — and may take a while to address; some are complex and difficult with which to work.

Regardless of how or why a client presents the way that they do, the result of what is happening in the therapeutic process and relationship can be the same.  You may make slow progress.

I like to share a metaphor with my supervisees that has given me great perspective as a clinician when things are slow-going.  It is that of an ice sculpture. Continue reading “Working as an Ice Sculptor in Therapy”


Self-care and the Counselor


I’ve had lots of conversations recently with both students and supervisees regarding self-care.

With students, somewhere along the way, many get the impression that “self-care” is a version of being very nice to yourself every once-and-a-while.  Some typical examples that I hear: getting a massage, going to a spa, shopping, and binge-watching Netflix.  While getting a massage or going shopping are great things to do to relax or treat yourself, to me, this isn’t what I would consider self-care in the counseling profession. Continue reading “Self-care and the Counselor”